“Teaching kids is tough. I feel like I’ve had three lessons already”. I heard this from one of my previous co-workers after he taught only one lesson with seven children.
Teaching is fun, but difficult sometimes. I think almost all the people that visit here can relate to this. However, teaching kids is not that bad. Here is my experience.
When I started to work for an English school several years ago, I didn’t know how to control kids, let alone teach them. Classes were just a caos, and I always felt guilty because I didn’t teach, I just shouted to them “Be quiet! Listen to me!” “No, no! Don’t do that!” One day, a questionair from a mother said “The teacher has a great English level, but she doesn’t know anything about kids.” This hurt me. I knew my lessons weren’t productive, but this mother was too frank.
Later, I had a small talk with this mother about what she thought I didn’t know about my kids students. She said that I wasn’t really showing any affection towards kids, when kids were talking to me.
I started to pay more attention to kids who interrupt and destroy the lesson procedure. Then I realized that I was just trying to teach or control them, but wasn’t listening to them at all. Kids sometimes bring small dust or hair on the carpet and say “here you are.” It really doesn’t matter for adults, but for kids, these trivial things were important. They have very small and narrow sights, but their imagination is huge. I said “thank you” instead of saying “don’t pick that up, it’s dirty.”
Gradually I tried to listen to them and give at least one comment to them. Then they opened their hearts to me and began to tell me more about them. The topics weren’t always related to the lesson, but it was easier to get back to the lesson when I replied them. I felt they began to like me more, which built up trust, love and affection between us.
Of course this wasn’t easy. I had to stand in their position to see from their aspect. Luckily, my mental age wasn’t too old
, so it didn’t take time to understand what kids usually like to see or hear. I went to toy shops and observed kids there. I watched kids in the park, too.
Teaching is not teaching. If you love kids but not teach kids, maybe you’ll be able to enjoy the lesson soon. Without regaining kids spirit, teacing will always be just teaching.